when I first tweeted these I had to try to hide them from my two psychologist parents but then they got so big that my neighbor told them about it and so they sat me down to ask if I needed help.
[Cross-posted from “The Comment Section" on Asexuality Archive]
- It is NOT part of the LGBT community. No one is denying any rights to people who choose not to have sex.
- If being gay is about political rights, then they don’t fit in because they are not fighting for any kinds of rights because they are not being denied any thing.
- What right is denied to an Asexual person? Just name one, please.
Why these comments are a problem:
It implies that “fighting for rights” is the only reason people ever identify as gay or transgender or what have you. That’s a preposterous assertion. It’s my understanding that people tend to identify as gay because they’re gay, not because they enjoy political organization. Beyond that, the this claim implies that once those rights are granted, there will no longer be a need for the LGBT community. “Cancel the parade, everyone! Say goodbye to the Castro and the Village! Board up the gay bars! Tear down those rainbow flags! We’ve got our rights now, so it’s all unnecessary!”
Fighting for legal rights isn’t the only reason to form a community. Being around other people who understand how you feel so you don’t have to constantly explain yourself is one of the primary reasons. We also are drawn to find a community because so many of us felt alone, like we were the only person who felt this way. The larger our community is, the more visible we are, and the more visible we are, the more likely someone else will be able to grow up knowing that they’re asexual, instead of feeling lost and broken for years until they stumble across the word.
Also, despite the claim, there actually are legal issues that concern asexuality. Discrimination is one of them. There are people who will discriminate against anyone who is not heterosexual. While there are laws against discrimination based on sexual orientation in many places, in some cases, those laws are written in such a way that they do not include asexuality. For instance, RCW 49.60.040 in the State of Washington (where I live) defines “sexual orientation” as “heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, and gender expression or identity.” Asexuality is not included. Under the letter of the law, asexuals could legally be fired for being asexual. There’s a report of an asexual couple who could not adopt a child because they were asexual. Asexuals with homoromantic leanings may run into the same prohibitions against marriage that homosexual people fight against. And if asexuals do get married, there are sometimes “consummation laws” that require sexual intercourse for a marriage to be considered “valid”, and that may not be something an asexual person is willing to do.
How to respond:
- Inform the person that the LGBT community is about more than just “fighting for rights”, or it would disappear after those rights were obtained.
- Explain that “fighting for rights” is not the only reason people seek community, recognition, and acceptance.
- Discuss legal issues that have or potentially could impact you as an asexual.
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"the government sees everything you do online!"
um ok what’re they going to see? me being a fucking weeaboo?